Same Boat … Different Waves?

I know I have not written up my wedding story yet, but that will come, I promise. This blog is about how when planning a wedding, you get to see people’s true colors. After planning my wedding, I got to see who my true friends and family were, and it truly amazed me. In the last few years I have learned a lot about the person I am. I am very loyal, very trusting, and most of all, I am very forgiving.

When Mikey and I first got engaged I had it already planned. Family is VERY important to me, so I knew right away I wanted my brother, and my cousins (who are more like little brothers and sisters) to be in the wedding. Hubby has a real brother, a step-brother and a half sister. He isn’t too close to any of them. His real brother was in the Marines in Japan and couldn’t make the wedding. Trust me I understand this. Well his brothers wife (who is a bitch) and his daughter were suppose to come to the wedding. They had RSVP’d and everything. Well she calls 2 days before the wedding, and was like “I’m so sorry, I can’t come to the wedding, I didn’t realized it was on a Friday”. I am like ummm okay, you have had this invite for 6 months, and never looked at a calendar. More or less I was like, whatever! Originally I was going to ask hubby’s two nieces (4 and 3) to be the flower girls, but I am glad I didn’t because there would have been on not showing up. Now hubbys step-brother didn’t come to the wedding, but again he was in the Army training, so I completely understand.

I asked Hubby who he wanted in the wedding party, and he was not really anyone except his best man Evan. I was fine with that. We had the whole wedding party lined up. It would be Evan as best man, Chelle as Maid of Honor, My bro and my good friend from high school, my bestest couz from Canada, and Steve (the guy I met my hubby thru) and my 2 couz from FL, and my 2 couz from PA (who I all are more like siblings to me).  I was so excited. I always wanted a large bridal party with everyone who means a lot to me. I sent out e-mails about what dresses to get, where to get fitted for tuxes, what hotel was giving me the best deal and everything. I was way organized and had things planned.

The maid of honor in my wedding is my cousin who I have always been close since we were born. Honestly every weekend while we were in high school we would drive to each others houses and stay from Friday night to Monday morning. We were so close, until my wedding. She was all excited to be the MoH, and we picked out a different dress for her than everyone else. It was awesome because I really enjoyed having her be there with me, and just laugh about things. In Oct. she was in a friends wedding. They were allowed to pick any color green dress. She got a $100 dress from Macy’s. It’s now 6 weeks before the wedding I get an e-mail (not a call, no a text, an e-mail) saying that due to her moving in with her boyfriend, quitting her job, and having some money issues, she would not be able to be the MoH, and would not be coming at all to my wedding. I was heartbroken. I honestly think I cried for a few days. I forgave her, and though at this time it was only a month til the wedding, I was still upset. I got the flower box in the mail (oh yeah, there is 60 bucks that won’t be used). I get the girl’s wedding presents in the mail (oh again, another 40 bucks that is wasted). Oh well, I got over that. I just wish things were different though, Like why couldn’t her parents, or her grandparents help her a little, isn’t that what family was for. I told her I would have paid for her dress and she had FREE place to stay up there with her uncle who was coming to the wedding, She had a FREE ride up there as most of my family drove up and there was always room for extra people.

So we are married now, and we are having a Florida reception for all the people who couldn’t or didn’t come to the Pennsylvania wedding. She e-mailing my hubby to see why I am mad at her. She called to let me know they were coming to the Florida reception, which I was excited about. She e-mailed me and asked me why I didn’t call her back. I sent her an e-mail just simply saying I was I was busy, and didn’t want to call too late. I wished her a happy birthday (as that day is was). She e-mailed me back and was like it’s okay, I understand, but if I was in your situation I don’t think I would ever forgive you …

Me: WHAT THE F* … how can you say you would NOT forgive me when I did it for you … I can ALMOST promise you that I will not be in her wedding, let alone be invited to it. Her brother got engaged last Oct. and his wedding is in May. I know about this wedding, but none of my side of the family were told about it, and we aren’t invited. I guess that is the difference between people. I know I am the bigger person, and that’s all that matters to me.

Now let’s talk about Steve. I met my hubby through him, and of course we wanted him to be in our wedding party. He obviously had a big impact on us. We get his RSVP back, and he is bringing his girlfriend. No biggie. Well it was the same wedding Chelle left the wedding, he messages us, and was like I want to come to your wedding, but I can’t be in it. It kind of did work on nicely (though I would just have had 2 guys walk down one girl). Well day of the wedding comes, and he NEVER shows up! What the F* is that. You are the reason we are together and getting married, but you don’t come to the wedding, NICE!

My last vent is about stupid people! If you get a invite in the mail and it was __ of 4 coming, why are you writing in 7 of 4 are attending? Did you fail math class? Also if you 13 it is NOT appropriate to bring your girlfriend to a wedding where it is over 60 bucks a plate (and then a week later break up with her). UGH, seriously, stupid people. You will hear more about this topic in my FULL wedding overview. Hope you enjoyed this, and maybe it will give you some life lessons for your own wedding.