Posted by Lia on Oct 29, 2008 in
Discussion Its amazing that assholes can get girls. Actually, now that I think of it, its not that amazing. They are assholes at heart, but to meet girls they lavish their undying love. ITS A CHARADE. They act nice, friendly, and they listen until they get into what theyre after. Their prey thinks they are in love with them, however when they realize what assholes their predators really are, they pretend like the asshole is really nice inside. The girl tries to change the asshole into a nice guy, but assholes will always be assholes. She gets upset and goes to the nice guy to complain about the asshole. But she claims to love the asshole? now this is where the theory begins. She doesnt want to look like she is easy so she wont dump the asshole right away, instead she will stay with the asshole. Girls are idiots. They dont realize that the nice guy has been there all along. He never had to pretend to be a good guy to get girls because he is naturally like that. However, girls don?t see it for some reason or another. They look at the nice guy as a friend, a trusted companion to whom they can tell their sad story to about their asshole boyfriend. But the nice guy isn?t THAT nave. He was trying to score with the girl he listens to all along. The problem is that since he is a nice guy he keeps listening. Since girls get attached to things that pay attention to them, they think of the nice guy as a friend. A FRIEND. They dont say, Oh hes hot? or I want to have his children? about the nice guy, they just want the emotional support. When they get the emotional support from the nice guy, they dont need it from the asshole. The nice guy gets the shit end of the stick while the asshole gets all the action. I am starting to wonder if being a nice guy is really the route to take to get action? I have been down this path for all of my post-pubescent life and it has gotten me NOWHERE? at least not in the women department. Perhaps another reason why girls fall for the asshole is because assholes ignore the girl they are with. The women wonder, ?Why isnt he paying attention to me so they explore why. They poke and prod and get closer to the asshole. They start to get easier with each attempt to get closer. The asshole finally says, Ive let this beauty dangle long enough, time to boat this bass?. It is then he puts on his charade and the girl feels like she has won him? even thought all she has won is an asshole. Once you have gone down the path as a nice guy or a listener you cant turn back. The girl will always go after the assholes because there are always nice guys there to listen. Once you realize that you are a listener you cant do anything about it just pack up and close shop. There is no way you will get into her pants ever. There is and never will be a situation where the nice guy will get the girl he has a crush on. It just doesnt work like that. The girl wont come to her senses and realize what an asshole her boyfriend is like in the movies instead she will just go after another asshole, and unless you stop being a nice guy, she will never go after you. Women complain that there are no nice guys in the world. Right. They are obviously not looking hard enough because there are nice guys EVERYWHERE!!!! Girls arent looking for nice guys they say they are but theyre not. They are looking for the perfect asshole, but there is NO SUCH THING as the perfect asshole. All in all, the nice guy gets the shaft. To all the girls out there with boyfriends that dont treat you with respect, that dont listen to you, and that dont care about you I say this; look next to you. The guy that has been standing next to you the whole time is the guy you have been looking for. He is what you want your asshole to be like. He knows more about you than you know about yourself because he has listened to it all.
* and this doesnt just happen to nice guys, it also happens to nice girl, Trust me I know. nice girls finish last 2, just this article is about nice guys finishing last *
Posted by Lia on Oct 28, 2008 in
Discussion The last few days I haven’t written because I have either been really busy or just haven’t wanted to sit down and write. It’s been hard and frustrating these days. I love my hubby and I am so glad he has a good job with an awesome company. Me on the other hands, I don’t know what to do. I need a job, but no one is hiring. I want to go back to school, but it’s so much money. I have been trying to get it all figured out, and honestly I think this weekend I solved my own problem. I know what I am going to do, and once I have something set in my head, I get in done. I want to see find a little part time job, but I really do want to go back to school. We shall see what truly comes from this, and you know I will keep you updated.
Here is something I found that was quite interesting about people, and it’s something that makes me realize my life isn’t so bad, and I can really do whatever I want to do with it. Enjoy
~ Walt Disney was fired by a newspaper editor for lack of ideas … he always went bankrupt several times before he built Disney Land.
~ Albert Einstein didn’t speak until he was four, and he didn’t read unitl he was seven. His teacher described him as *mentally slow, unsociable, and adrift forever in his foolish dreams*. He later was expelled from that school.
~ Leo Tolstoy, the author of War and Peace flunked out of college. He was described as *both unable and unwilling to learn*
~ Abraham Lincoln ran for public office seven times and was defeated everytime before becoming the president of the United States.
~ Beethoveen was told at an early age that he had no talent for music.
~ John Lennon was labeled *learning disabled*
~ Michael Jordan was cut from his high school’s basketball team.
~ The Beatles were turned down by Decca Recording Company because *groups of guitars are on their way out*
~ When Lucille Ball began studying to become an actress in 1927, she was told by the head instructor of John Murray Anderson Drama School to *try another profession, any other*
~ Lean Uris, the author of the bestseller Exodus failed high school English three times.
~ Woody Allen flunked motion picture production at New York University and The City College of New York. He also failed English at N.Y.U.
~ Marilyn Monroe was told when inquiring about modeling work that she better learn secretarial work, or else get married.
Posted by Lia on Oct 21, 2008 in
Discussion I would hope all of you know what an abortion is, but if not, let me educate you first.
An abortion is the termination of ones pregnancy by having a doctor remove the embryo/fetus from the uterus (which obvious kills it). There is a thing called a miscarriage which is a spontaneous abortion which is not caused by the mother or is not removed by a doctor.
Okay, enough of the education, let’s get to the real matter. Abortion in my mind is wrong, 100% totally wrong. If you are old enough to have sex, then your obviously old enough to have the baby. There are only 2 cases where I can see thinking about having abortion, but maybe where the morning after pill could be used instead. (The morning after pill is a high dose of birth control that stops the fertilization of the egg and sperm.) The sperm takes anywhere from 12 to 72 hours to meet with the egg and produce, so only if you are raped, or it’s incest because then the sperm and egg have not met, and the baby is not formed yet.
Unless you have had one of those two things happen to you, then you need to grow up and deal with life. If your 13 and feel your old enough to have sex, then guess what, your old enough to get pregnant and have a baby. I am sorry that you want to act like a child now and be like *whoa is me*, but you made the adult choice, now live with the adult consequences!
A baby is the most precious thing there is. Why would you want to kill it? You aren’t even giving the baby a chance. I would rather you give the baby up for adoption than abort it. That is just horrible. What if your mother decided she didn’t want you and aborted you? Then guess what, you wouldn’t be here today reading my blog. My point is, if your going to have sex at a young age, be responsible about it.
End Note: I have a sister-in-law who is 18, and guess what, she has a baby. Except her baby isn’t like just born, she is 4. Yes 4, believe it. She was a girl who decided way too young to have sex, and she got pregnant. She didn’t have an abortion, or have someone else adopt her kid, she kept her, and raises her everyday. I am truly proud of her, and wish her nothing but the best!
Here is a great little poem about this topic:
Every Abortion Is Just . . .
One more heart that was stopped.
Two more eyes that will never see.
Two more hands that will never touch.
Two more legs that will never run.
One more mouth that will never speak.
Posted by Lia on Oct 16, 2008 in
Discussion Hello again. I am happy I have been able to write every day. I have a few things I have been asked to write about, and I will get to them. Today’s topic is The Fashion Market!
So seriously, what the hell is wrong with the fashion market these days? I don’t have a problem with the colors, fabric or even the prices of clothes. I have a major problem with the cut/ fit and sizes of them. Well here is my story, and my point of view of this topic.
I am built different from most girls these days, but I am not the only one. I am honestly like triangle shaped (except more like upside down). I have a large top, some unwanted extras in the middle, and a small bottom. For me to find something that fits my top is honestly magical! I am short, so I normally need to get my pants hemmed, but for the most part, I can walk into any store and get shorts, pants, skirts, anything for my bottom. Though here comes an issue. I walk into American Eagle and have to buy a size 13, walk into Hollister, and their size 13 will barley go up my legs. I walk into Target (yes I shop there) and get a size 9. So why does one company’s size not match to another. Why can’t it be like guys size? If I talk into any store and get a size 38 and bring them home, well 9 out of 10 will fit hubby without a problem. I could never walk into 10 different store and get me clothes without first trying on 2 different sizes to see which fits me best. UGH!!
Lets talk dresses. I love dressing up, but trust me I do not do it often. Have you ever tried to fit huge tata’s into a dress and not have them look over exposed? I have, and let me tell you it’s a pain. Any dress I have EVER owned has been bought to fit the boobs, and then taken in at the waist. It’s truly sad that I have to worry about fittings, and alternations, and not just what the dress looks like. I had my prom dress basically custom made so it fit me nicely without having to worry about anything. My bridal gown was a corset (thank god), but it still has to be tucked in a few inches around each hip. UGGGHHHH. oh well, I guess that’s life.
Another complaint I have is finding a new decent shirt to cover up the girls. I love clothes, I love shopping, but I am limited to stores now. It’s sad when my 12 year old cousin and I walk into Aeropostale and she has to buy an XL there because it really fits like a Medium. Do you not see something wrong there? You only advertising to stick thin or tweenish girls. What about us everyday girls, where do we get cute shirts?
Oh bathing suits, every girl loves to go shopping for them, not me. If I found a decent bathing suit that covers my boobs, I have to be a sneak and switch bottoms. I need an XL top and a medium bottom. Most companies have gotten better at selling their pieces seperate, but some still haven’t learned. Once I go to the beach and I feel good in my bathing suits, I get weird reactions like I am over-exposed. I think I cover up as good as I can, but I guess people want me in a long sleeve turtleneck!
Okay let us talk about my BIGGEST complaint with fashion. Bras, you know, the dread under garment! I sometime feel like taking a major fashion designer and shaking them saying this “Hello fashion people, if girls, ladies, women, whoever are paying boo-coo bucks to get BIG FAKE ones, why would you not increase your clothing line to a little bit bigger, or make your sizes actual sizes.” But since I think I would be put in jail for that, here I am venting about it on my blog. Let’s take Victoria Secrets for example. Their average bra will run you about $40 if you under a size 38D (which fits more like a 36C) because if your over that size, oh sorry, we don’t cover you. You have 32AA, but don’t have a DD? Interesting! I love Fredericks of Hollywood, not only do they carry bras up to 48GG, but they are the nicest people, and always offer you a free bra fitting. Studies say that 80% of us are wearing the wrong bra size since we have never had a real bra fitting. I know exactly what size I am (though I have a few bras that aren’t it, and still wear them.) Fredericks of Hollywood understand that ladies come in larger sizes, and we don’t want to spend $70 on a single bra. They have some of the most amazing sales. For sizes DD and under, they do buy one, get one free sales. For us girls over DD, they do buy 2 get one 1 free sale. I honestly have no problem spending $75 on 2 bras while getting the 3rd free. It is money well spent as these bras will last me a good 3 years, but more upwards to 5 years.
Well there is my discussion on the Fashion Market through the eyes of Lia. If you have any suggestions, complaints yourself, and funny stories dealing with fashion, I would love to here from you!
Enjoy your day!
Posted by Lia on Oct 15, 2008 in
Discussion Yesterday I got two questions from Christop asking me to discuss them on my blog. Well here is question number one from him: Sex before marriage?
My personal belief on this topic is that sometimes sex before marriage can be acceptable, where other times I do find it a little inappropriate. If you are going from guy to guy and having sex without using condoms, then that is just wrong, and disgusting. If you are committed to the same person for a lengthy period of time (I am talking a good 6 months or more) and feel like this is something you want to share something personal with, and they could be the *one*, then I nothing wrong with it.
I had a good friend who went from guy to guy and did what she wanted. Well 4 abortions and 2 mis-carriages later she is finally having a real baby with a guy she truly loves. I think that she did was wrong in many levels. (I will discuss abortion another day). She slept with these guys and didn’t really care about them. She got pregnant and never told them, and took care of it. Then we would go sleep with someone else and do the same thing. That kind of sex before marriage is truly unacceptable in my book.
Now my story is a little different. I was with someone for many years, and one night I decided I wanted to take it to the next level. I am glad I did as a few weeks after something horrible happened. A year or so passed and I was dating my hubby (though yes at that time he was just my boyfriend) and I knew he was different. I know he would never hurt me, and that no matter how many times we fought, or he broke up with me (because he was scared), we were going to last. In the end, we did get married, so what we were doing before the marriage was just practice :p
So my whole point was, I can see why to do it, and why not to do it. But in the end, it is your personal choice if you want to do something, or do not want to do something. I just wish you the best and if you are going to do it, be safe about it.
I leave you with a funny quote about sex while not married: Sex outside of marriage is like playing Russian Roulette. You never know when the gun will fire or the person has an STD.